When it comes to developing good habits, it’s awesome for the first three days, after that, something strange happens and somehow those habits are kicked to the curb and we are back to all our bad habits. This happens to literally everyone.
I’ll show you how I’m able to wake up before 6 am every single day, meditate, read 2 chapters, pray and read the bible & workout. Now I’ve done this routine on and off and this is the longest I’ve done it for. So…I’m not saying I’m a guru but…
Strat Small, ALWAYS start small
Now, I’m those people who love to go all in, if I’m going to do something I’d rather start BIG, but this is a problem when it comes to developing new habits and especially if you want to keep them because your mind and body are accustomed to a certain behavior pattern.
Start with one or two habits first, trust and believe you’ll find that, that one little habit will start attracting others out of nowhere. Like how I decided that I was going to workout made it easier for me to eat healthier and to wake up earlier.
Another thing is, when I decided I wanted to read every day, I decided to read only one to two chapters daily. This is my 7th month of doing that.
Take a day at a time
The biggest problem when trying to even form a new habit is over planning way into the future. Don’t do it. Set your weekly expectations and leave it at that, then take it a day at a time.
Personally, when it comes to making these daily habits stick, I know that if I get into bed later than 9:30 pm, everything else will come crumbling down like a house of cards and so my first decision starts at night.
When I wake up at 5 am, I set my goals, and i do this without the thought of, ‘what about tomorrow’? My attention is usually focused on making that day the most productive because I know FOR A FACT that success is in the daily habits.
Know the why of every small habit
You don’t always have to know, quite frankly the reason I started meditating was because I read it in, ‘The monk who sold his Ferrari’ I also kept hearing successful people talk about it and I was like, if successful people attest to this, then why not try it?
Now I can’t go without it because I’ve noticed such a huge increase in concentration and I also don’t overthink as much, which is so weird and amazing.
When it comes to reading 2 chapters daily, I do it because I don’t want to go through life making all these mistakes, also because I’m saving myself years of mistakes.
Praying and reading the bible is for getting closer to my creator. I want to love God intentionally, when I say I love God, it’s not just words bundled up but actions too.
Working out clears my mind and makes me look young.
Like we said at the beginning, start small and be intentional about those behaviors, if you want to wake up at 4 am, you have to be intentional about what time you go to bed. I know that if I wake up at 4 am feeling energized, I will be more likely to do it again and again.
There’s this quote I love, ‘If a man enjoys what he does, he does it repetitively.’ If you go to bed at 11 pm and wake up at 4 am, you will be so tired and it will feel like a drag the whole day.
It’s funny because being intentional is literally just one little choice that affects EVERYTHING else. But it’s always the hardest decision.
There’s something about doing something forever and ever that freaks people out. Find a way to take breaks, maybe take up a routine on the weekdays and break on the weekends. It makes it so much fun.
Combine easy and hard tasks
When you wake up in the morning to set your goals like we discussed earlier, set two goals as one. Like for instance; ‘working out and showering’ or ‘Meditation and making bed’. The easier task motivates you to finish the bigger task so that you can cancel it out. You dig?
Track your habits at the end of the day,
Look at what you did and didn’t do and improve on it the next day. At first, you’ll take long to do some tasks because of course they are new but as you settle in, you’ll find yourself finishing all goals and wanting to set some new ones.
Tracking yourself helps with preventing the slippage. Let me explain, as you begin on this journey of new habit formation, after the 3 day mark, you might yourself slipping, let’s say you said you were going to wake up at 4 am and sleep at 9 pm, you might find yourself slipping to 9;30 pm and when you do, you need to nip it in the bud immediately because that’s how you start backsliding. Don’t allow it!
When you wake up late, don’t mess the whole day because you failed to accomplish one goal.
Ask yourself, how many hours do I have to be productive? If it’s 6 productive hours, begin to prioritize.
Forgive yourself and let it go
In some days, you’ll end up wasting the whole day, in some days, you’ll end up doing less than half of what you wanted and in those days and weeks you have to forgive yourself, the point is growth and never perfection.